‘Fit Mom’ Versus ‘Curvy Girl’: Can You Really Tell What A Person’s Health Is By Looking At Their Size?

‘Fit Mom’ Versus ‘Curvy Girl’: Can You Really Tell What A Person’s Health Is By Looking At Their Size?

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Last week, the media was abuzz about Maria Kang, who is known online as ‘Fit Mom’, after an image she posted online of herself and her three young sons with the question “What’s Your Excuse?” across the top, went viral. She was temporarily banned on Facebook for posting what was considered ‘hate speech’, when she expressed her opinion of a photo campaign launched by Curvy Girl Lingerie, asking plus size women to post photos of themselves in lingerie and love the body they’re in.

Maria Kang got the opportunity to state her opinion in an interview on CNN, which included Chrystal Bougon, owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie. The interview got heated and Maria made no secret that she felt that Chrystal and her photo campaign was promoting obesity by asking women to be proud of their bodies via the photos they submitted. Maria feels that these women should be instead pursuing a healthier lifestyle and not embracing obesity as a way of life. Chrystal countered Maria’s argument by saying that every woman should love themselves at all times and that loving yourself does not mean you’re embracing obesity. It means you’re embracing the body you have now, which can change. It is up to the individual. In case you missed it, here’s the video of the interview via CNN and Mediaite:


So this brings up a question that has been debated for years. Can you tell what a person’s health is by their size? Is it okay to assume that because a person is overweight or considered obese that, that person is unhealthy? Are all fit, thin people healthy?

Take a look at the following image…all of the women in the image weigh 154 pounds. However, they are all different heights and builds. Can we look at these women and distinguish if they are unhealthy or not? Can we just look at their weight and height and deem them fit or overweight?


Photo credit: Facebook

And the biggest question of all is…if you’re overweight or obese, are you supposed to NOT love yourself?

With eating disorders a serious issue especially with young girls, loving yourself is something that is very needed. We all can’t look like Maria Kang nor should we strive to. That is the quintessential reason why everyone should love the body they have now.

Loving your body as it is now doesn’t mean that you won’t want to be the best YOU that you can be. It doesn’t mean you will not care about your health. Loving yourself will give you that desire to be good to yourself and part of that is being healthy. Being healthy doesn’t come in a dress size. Healthy is how you feel. You have to get to a place with your body where you are comfortable, feel good and are healthy. And that might mean not being the same size and build as Maria Kang. As shown in the image above, there is no cookie-cutter body type or size that everyone can be.

To Maria Kang’s benefit, she has the right idea in terms of getting active and being healthy and promoting such. But her approach and attitude towards women loving themselves is where she loses any positive effect she could have in the world. It’s one thing to inspire others to get healthy and quite another when you are condemning plus size women for loving themselves as they are now. That’s where you stop inspiring women and instead are perceived as someone who is ‘fat-shaming’ and not being a positive role model.

What do you think of Maria Kang? Do you think that we can predict or diagnose someone’s health by their size? Do you think plus size women should not love themselves? Please leave us a comment below and let us know what you think.

To read more about Curvy Girl Lingerie’s photo campaign, click here.

To visit Maria Kang’s blog, click here.

DisclaimerAny views or opinions presented in this article are solely those of the author and do not necessarily represent those of PLUS Model Magazine.


  1. says

    This idea that you can “promote obesity” is so obsolete. And its just stupid anyway. It’s part of the silly idea that obesity is somehow morally wrong. Its judgemental and serves no purpose other than to make some groups of people feel morally superior.

    Kang has worked hard to achieve her body, but its like restoring a classic car; unless the framework is there to begin with all the work in the world is not going to turn a Ford into a Lamborghini.

    She likes to work out, and the way her body looks is all important to her. Good for her. I like to garden and a neat tidy lawn is important to me. But I’m not shaming my neighbours for not having manicured lawns and acting like I’m a better person because I do.

  2. Ariies Jordan says

    idqaf, women in all shapes and sizes are all beautiful dont matter iif yur fiit or not..

  3. Aja says

    I notice that I’m more likely to exercise and make healthier choices when I feel sexy and beautiful because I want to maintain if not improve upon that feeling.

  4. Jenny says

    I have always been a big girl. And it was just recently that I realized that God gave me my body and the self confidence to carry myself in a beautiful way. He gave me this body because not everyone can handle or appreciate the body I have and love it.

    Do I want to work on my body, yes, but that is only because I am tired of being two sizes bigger on the bottom. :) And would like for clothes to fit without having to be altered.

    I love my curves and I am proud of them!

  5. Alicia Hendricks says

    So, because a woman is “overweight” she’s supposed to hate how she looks?
    Instead of working towards being the healthiest she can be, all the while embracing her size/curves.
    I tell you, our society sure knows how to taint ones perception of themselves, and what’s sad is our children will grow up believing this crap.
    I follow FitMom on Instagram, but not only am I going to unfollow her, I’m going to give her a piece of my mind as well.
    Thanks for sharing this!

  6. Ethel Still says

    If the person is healthy then size should not matter. But, no matter if you are skinny or obese just be happy with who you are. I also feel that people look at women and judge women more for being obese then they do men.

  7. Danny J Albers says

    I support her no excuses message.

    I think the real bone of contention is the implication is that you are lazy if you do not do as she does.

    This woman obviously utilizes day care or something to get her gym time in. Thats great.

    I am not going to judge other moms for investing that same amount of time in their kids instead of their butts.

    Different strokes for different folks.

    As for the no excuses message, she is also right. If you want a build like that, you have to make sacrifices to get it. It is a motivational message to those who are indeed making sacrifices to get it. But lots on anyone else.

  8. says

    As a plus size woman myself (size 14), I have struggled the majority of my life with eating disorders because I wanted to be like the woman portrayed in the media. I tried everything from yo-yo dieting, restrictive eating and finally Bulimia which controlled my life for 14 years. I can say now that I have freed myself from the pressure of trying to be what the media expects us to be. One thing I believe that Miss Kang failed to mention is how much genetics plays a role in our metabolism and our ability to get into shape fast. I am a tri-racial woman and come from ethnic groups that tend to be more curvy. This is something that I have embraced now as a 30 year old woman, yet my natural curves have always made it more difficult to loose the weight. Miss Kang probaly did not gain weight in the areas that some woman have a problem with after having kids partially because Genetics. I am happy, and healthy and a beautiful size 14. I never desire to be as thin as you Miss Kang because that is unrealistic for me. I support the plus size movement and giving each other the strength to love ourselves.

  9. Bianca Bradley says

    I couldn’t agree with Lisa more.

    I personally am tired of people like fit mom going on that it’s promoting obesity. It’s hard enough as a woman, even if you have what amounts to culturally aesthetically pleasing body, to like who and what you are. What ever happened do not judge a book by it’s cover?

    If she doesn’t wear the lingerie, that us plus sized women do, she really should be minding her own business. Maybe take the time that she has, and put it better use. Frankly, as a plus sized woman, I really do not need, want, desire, some militaristic lunk, telling me I need to work out more, so I could look like some victoria secret angel.

    Nor is working out a lot, necessarily healthy. While she pursues the skinny ideal, she should get back to us in a few years when she starts creaking. Or if we enter some apocalypse, us fat girls will be alive longer. Plus I bet I tolerate the cold better then she does. And as a bonus, my fat gives me bigger boobs, and a butt. So nyahhhh

  10. April says

    Just because somebody is “thin” does not mean that they are “healthy”. Those two words are not synonymous. I am a plus size woman, who according to the “BMI” is “obese” and yet I have perfect blood pressure, a perfect heart rate, and the ability to outrun my “thin” friends up a local toboggan hill. I agree that we should all aim to be the best we can be, but I wish people would stop assuming we all need to have washboard abs to attain that. I support the movement for women to love themselves exactly as they are, because the more you love yourself, the more likely you are to take care of yourself, and then the better you feel! It’s a very positive cycle that starts with looking in the mirror and being truly happy with what you see. I promote confidence, self-esteem, and a guilt-free existence! Tolerance and acceptance for people of every shape and size.

  11. Kimberley says

    I somewhat agree with what Maria Kang was saying. We should all work out and eat right. Some girls I know weight 110 pounds , eat crap all day, don’t work out and stay skinny. Some girls I know weight 180 pounds , eat right, work out AND gain weight. Not all women pack on weight at the same rate, visibly. Which is better ? Neither, I think its just different for all of us. I agree with her on one thing, not all the women in the pictures shown looked healthy but, since when has lingerie been about health anyways? It’s about feeling sexy and attractive, it’s not about your cholesterol level. Its about how you perceive yourself not about what the doctor tells you. Maria Kang was trying to deliver a great message, it just had nothing to do with Curvy Girl Lingerie’s campaign. Health and body image are just two complete different matters. End of story. I will say this though, one thing I wish Maria Kang would do is take 30 to 60 minutes a day to work on her narrow-mindedness and improve her communication skills. Flat abs are great but they don’t give you the right to diminish others self-esteem, girl.

  12. Samantha young says

    I’d love to be fit and am quite committed to exercise when I have the time – I’m a single mother of 2yr old and I work full time, so on top of those jobs and keeping a home including DIY etc, I simply don’t have the time to commit to a regime that will see me toned and taut – in addition I want to spend the time i’m not working, with my son as i don’t have childcare outside of my work hours – I’m all for a healthier, fitter lifestyle but I also want to see a positive message of acceptance being portrayed, statistically I’m probably obese but I’m not unhealthy and I’m not unhappy, I try to accept me for me today and do what I can to change my perception of myself to that of a positive nature. Constant images of what is deemed to be ‘perfect’ are unhealthy – love yourself for who you are and take small but positive steps to improve what you want, when you want, appreciate the things i life you can feel with your soul xxx

  13. Yourmom says

    Maria should explain how that people that appear perfectly “healthy” drop dead from heart attacks, respiratory failure, cancer, etc? It is true that “everyone” could make better choices but none of them are a guarantee of good health and longevity. Some people that have lived into their 100′s admit to smoking or drinking and have managed to outlive most of us. Being thin doesn’t guarantee self-confidence, most runway and fashion models suffer from OCD, anorexia, bulimia, etc and admit to always worrying about their looks and about aging. I can’t say anyone has “the answer” to what perfection should be or is. Leave it to the individual to decide, live and let live.

  14. Deanna G says

    Living a healthy lifestyle requires a lot of dedication and work. It requires someone to put themselves as a priority. Unfortunately many of us overweight and obese ladies are often so ashamed of our bodies that we are not capable of making our own health a priority. When you live in a bubble of body hatred and shame it is very hard to feel ‘worth’ the energy and work required to make healthy choices. Additionally, the fact that all ‘health’ advice is focused on weight loss rather than nutrition and activity only increases the likelihood of failure as even perfect food and exercise choices do not always reflect on the scale.

    Maria Kang offers wonderful advice but she is misguided. Loving your body does not promote obesity — it gives overweight and obese women permission to accept themselves. Acceptance of ourselves and our bodies can very well lead to a better connection and understanding of our bodies which in turn will lead to better lifestyle choices. These better choices should always be the goal — not weight loss.

    So Maria Kang may be fit and thin and I think she probably provides inspiration to many women but she cannot be a role model to me. Only someone who teaches acceptance, self love, and tolerance can hold that title. If Maria would like to inspire obese women she should educate women to love themselves enough to make healthy choices rather than shaming them about their current size.

  15. April says

    I feel you have missed the point. You said “if you want a build like that”. The issue at hand is the pressure to HAVE “a build like that”, not specifically because we WANT it, but because society DEMANDS it, and will not accept anything “less”. That we are not worthy of love, respect, admiration, or of the label of “beautiful”, unless we conform to the cookie-cutter ideals presented to us daily via so many forms of social media.

  16. Laura Null says

    I find Kang obnoxious, because she does not get the message. It is not “promoting obesity” – the intent is to build self-esteem, by saying that there is no one single way to look. If she would only realize it, that sense of self esteem is necessary as a foundation in order for an individual to work on her appearance and personal growth, through diet and exercise if necessary, or whatever it takes. That said, I found that restricting what she had to say as hate speech to be a very bad legal precedent. It was not hate speech, it was an opinion. I don’t agree with her, but she has the right of free expression under the law, and to suppress her is ultimately to suppress all of us.

  17. Jackie McMillan says

    I would like to see Maria Kang’s evidence-base proving that body shame produces the greatest results. I also disagree that weightloss is a reasonable measure of success. Happiness is success. Loving the body you’re in increases the happiness in the world. I wouldn’t be surprised to find that happy people exercise more… but before making ridiculous claims about it, I’d get an evidence basis – something this “fit” person failed to do.

  18. Tyra says

    If Mrs. Kang wants to say that people who appear to be unfit or un-athletic shouldn’t love themselves or be invited to love them selves because that ‘promotes obesity’ then I think she needs to recognize that, on that train of thought, one could argue that athleticism and extreme fitness/health regimes can and is a way to hide unhealthy behaviors such as eating disorders and other mental health problems on the other side of obesity.
    No one wins that argument because we get into assumption and speculation based on looks.

    She might be speaking a different story if she had/has walked in the shoes of a larger fit person who has been looked over or shamed for their body, even when they are incredibly active and healthy. I agree with Lisa “unless the framework is there to begin with all the work in the world is not going to turn a Ford into a Lamborghini.”

    I think it’s great to want to motivate people to be healthy, but that shouldn’t mean shaming others for not living the way you do.

  19. Latoya says

    You cannot tell the level of a person’s fitness or health by looking at their size. I am 5’2 165 and in the military. I have no problem passing a PT test nor my height and weight tape measurements. I am proportioned. I do not carry my weight in my belly. My weight is evenly distributed. And I LOVE for women like Maria Kang to challenge me on push-ups and sit-ups! They look at me and think challenging me would be an easy win for them. Wrong! Long after they give up I’m still going. I work out regularly. But my genetics have determined that I am predisposed not to look like her so I look like the best me! And honey, I love every inch of it!!!

  20. Cheryl K. says

    I’ve battled with weight my entire life. Going from a size 18 at 12 years old to a size 10 at 17 then back to an 18 and down to a 12 up to a 20, etc…”30-60 minutes a day” will NOT give you Maria’s body unless you were already that tone before children.

    Giving people, especially young “overweight” girls the misleading idea that if you work out for a short time everyday you’d look like a fit & tone cover model is VERY wrong and VERY dangerous.

    Please be honest and share how much time it takes you to measure your food everyday, how much time it takes to make your food, how much the food costs, and how you will work in all that gym time while taking care of 3 children below the age of 5. When people are honest about their gym obsessions maybe we can be more accepting of everyone’s body type (AND SHAPE!). (By “gym” I mean ANY time working out whether it be at home or not.)

    I’m proud of my body, my husband loves me and my curves.

  21. says

    I always feel sad when a woman hate herself. And i hate that because is the consecuence of something worse, that is the domination of a society, in particular the women are being stereotipeted making the feeling of frustration when they can’t fit in the model of beauty. And i also hate when i see superficial people, no just because they press too much atention to appearency, rather they are superficial in their thoughts, they are not seeing that the problem is deeper. Come on girls! anyone can make you love or hate yourself, the love is a kit that comes with life ?


  22. Alissa says

    I’m a fairly curvy girl, definitely overweight and perhaps leaning toward obese. You can tell I don’t eat healthy or work out, ever. I think Maria is completely correct when she said you can see that obese people are unhealthy just by looking at them. Obesity= unhealthy, and obesity is something you can see. You can also see the same thing in women that are too skinny, I’ve seen people so skinny that I just want to throw up (and not out of jealousy). You KNOW they’ve got an eating disorder. Celebrating a person’s weight, who is too skinny, is just as harmful as celebrating an obese person’s size. Lets celebrate the person and encourage them to love themselves enough to take good care of their beautiful bodies. Don’t support their unhealthy habits. Health is definitely a passion of Maria Kang’s, and I don’t see anything wrong with her promoting healthy habits, in fact she has made it her career. To me, a person who helps people be healthy cares more about unhealthy people than a person who wants people to embrace their unhealthy lifestyles and bodies.

  23. says

    I couldn’t disagree with your more. You’re making assumptions based on your own life and experiences, which differ, hugely, from the experiences and genetics of others.

    Instead of spending so much time judging if others have or haven’t got an eating disorder or are or aren’t unhealthy I prefer to mind my own business and focus on accepting myself just the way I am.

    The added benefit of that is then I accept others the way they are to.

  24. Izc says

    It is ridiculous to say that because your over weight you are unhealthy. I’m “obese” yet I don’t have any sickness at the age of 39. I’m fat but I do eat healthy most of the time. Both sides of my family are heavy set people, I believe in my case it’s genetic. I don’t over eat and I do love my body. I hope more women can relate to me and know that we are not alone. I know I’m healthy even though it’s not obvious to all. ;-)

  25. says

    I think you must love yourself just the way you are, you have to accept and learn about your body structure. But that can’t give us the wrong impression that eating more than we should or eating less would make us love ourselves just because we think that way we are paying attention to our wishes of “being happy the way we look”.
    It seems now we are treating all skinny girls like crazies and disturbed persons, but there are a lot that do healthy workout without hurting themselves.
    We should keep the health and help each other, not critisize just for our benefit.
    Extremes aren’t good. We should eat what we like, in right proportion. And exercise, believe it or not, the simple act of walking keeps our bodies, and the most important: our minds healthy. Not mind if that doesn’t makes us lose weight, it helps keep our mind fresh. (Eventually, maybe you can lose weight)

  26. Dorothy says

    I am overweight, hit the gym 4 times a week, and work a very physical job. I also love to eat. Love, love, love it. I don’t have diabetes, I don’t have high blood pressure, I don’t have any health conditions relating to my weight. I feel GREAT, both in body and spirit. A friend of mine is VERY skinny. A lot of people like to say she is too skinny, but she’s not. She’s just naturally very skinny. She too works out and eats like I do. She too feels great. We have a friend who is this tiny little thing who cannot keep up with us when we hike, even thought she’s supposedly “healthy” because she is thin. I hate this message that thin is healthy and beautiful. It’s a dangerous lie. If every–EVERY–person was taught to eat healthy, exercise correctly, and feel beautiful in the skin they’re in, we’d all be so much better off.

  27. says

    Every time I’ve lost weight in my adult life, it’s been because I have been very sick or I was going hungry because I didn’t have enough money to buy food. Thinness and weight loss have a very negative connotation for me, and I don’t equate it with healthiness at all. Quite the opposite.

  28. Shawn says

    I have been overweight my entire life. It’s definitely genetic because all of my paternal cousins have the same size issues. It isn’t the food, since my skinny Mom did all of the cooking when I was young. She also did a lot of the pushing me to lose weight. Instead of promoting me to do healthy activities, I got “you would be so pretty if you lost weight” and handed a bowl of cabbage soup while she ate cookies and soda. She will forever be stuck in the 70s mentality of low fat and high carb, with my PCOS was the worst diet for me. To this day when I see her she will rag on me for eating anything high in fat, even if it’s healthy EFAs. Health and physical fitness are not always evident when looking at someone(look at Dr Weil). You could looking completely healthy and have a tumor you don’t know about. Someone could love working out, but are actually ruining their joints because they are doing it wrong or too much. I’ve known many women who look sicker and older after having lost weight. The key is to promote health, not size.

  29. Neshie says

    I just cannot take weight loss advice or commentary on body image issues from someone who had an eating disorder. Even though a person may not be exhibiting disordered eating habits, often times they still have a disordered thought process. We saw this when that blogger (a former anorexic) went off the rails ranting about how disgusting the love scenes in Mike and Molly were. I refuse to allow anyone who is predispositioned to have body image issues make me feel bad about me.

  30. Kristina says

    Why is it okay to demoralize a person based on their size? In today’s day and age you cannot say anything about a persons race or skin color, you can’t say a word about their religious beliefs (well, unless they are Catholic, because for some reason people think it’s okay to bash them too), or if they are disabled. If you do, you can be arrested, sued, etc. But if a person is overweight it’s okay to to degrade and demoralize??

  31. Tracey says

    My problem with Ms. Kang and “Fitness Gurus” like her is that fitness is her JOB. I work a 40 to 50 hour work week in a medical office, I have four busy kids and husband to look after. I was once 322.4 lbs and through dietary changes and simply walking when I could find time, I have lost over 115lbs. I have never set foot in a gym, I will NEVER look like her, nor do I want to. I like having a woman’s body. Why do we have this culture where you need to have flat EVERYTHING, then go and spends thousands of dollars for implants, when we already have the bodies that nature intended for us to have. I needed to lose weight because as a black woman, I have a host of familial health issues like diabetes, heart attack, and cancer. I became a vegan, and with modest exercise got a clean bill of health from my doctor. The numbers on the scale only tell half of the story. Your bloodwork such as LDL, HDL, triglycerides, and blood sugars, should be the focus of health, NOT the way we look. Yes, America is teetering on the brink of a major health crisis, but focusing on looks alone and calling for being thin takes away from the real issues. Working in a medical office, I’ve seen naturally thin people with some of the worse health issues on the planet. They got the message that because I’m thin, I can eat, smoke, and do whatever I want, because thin supposedly equals healthy. It’s not until it’s too late that they realize that’s just the opposite. The call to love yourself no matter what is a noble one. I hated my body for a long time, but continued my unhealthy smoking and food habits until potential illness and age (I’m 38)let me know I had to change MY ways. I don’t stand in judgement of anyone, because I’ve been there. It’s taken three years to lose the weight so far, and everyday there are temptations and naysayers. There are times when people will say you need to lose weight, and when you try, you find saboteurs around every corner. Food companies make highly processed and addictive foods with one hand and shake their finger at you for indulging with the other. I say LOVE YOURSELF! Do what’s right for you, and quit giving time and money to “Fitness Gurus”. Ultimately we as women know what’s best for us, and no “fit mom” can assess and judge that for me! Love to ALL the girls out there, BIG or small!

  32. Dorothy says

    Also, whenever I see that photo with the tagline, “What’s your excuse?” I think, “I don’t want to look like that.”

    Beauty means different things to different people. She looks good, of course she does. But I do not personally find her sexy or attractive. I love my body with wide hips and linebacker shoulders. It’s the way I was made and it’s what I find attractive. So there. That’s my excuse for not looking like you, Kang. I don’t want to. I don’t understand why this is such a difficult concept to grasp.

  33. venus says

    It really boils my blood when everytime a plus szie woman feels good about herself and loving her body a person like this comes along as always always claim we are promoting obesity. To me it seems like women like Mrs. Kang is the one with the low self esteem. I saw not one pic of any of those plus size woman who sent in pics of themsevles sitting on a couch eathing a 12 piecee bucket of chicken and french fries and candy bars saying ” Eat till you bust out of your pants.”People like Mrs. Kang are missing the message. The are loving the bodies that they have. Loving the body that you have means accepting who you are and taking care of it, and not looking like Miss kang does not mean you are unheallthy, so she miss the point as well.

    Mrs. Kang seems to belive (as do our society) that the value of a woman is in her dress size. If a woman does not llook like her she is a nobody and she is lazy. Now if Mr.s kang has the time and money to get the body she wants good for her, but that gives her no right to put down other woman or feel supior to other women if the don’t look like her. that is one the biggest lies our society has told for years. I am plus size but I love to dance. I love sala dance and I am at my salsa dance club each week. I like it because it is fun and you can be fit, but most of all it is fun and I make lot of friends and I am happy I don’t want to look like her , and because I don’t look like her does not make me any less of a woman than she is. to me a real woman whould not put down others becsue she feels better than them.

  34. Arla says

    No, no you cannot tell if someone is obese just be looking at them. There are people overweight who are considered healthy as there are people of average weight or underweight who are not considered healthy. If your only problem is that you are a few pounds over weight, or wearing a dress size larger than average, that doesn’t mean that you are risking your health. You also cannot determine whether someone is healthy or has diabetes, hypertension, or any serious health condition just by looking at a person. It’s nice that they can call Maria a “fitness expert,” but that doesn’t make her a physician. Everyone would like to play doctor and judge people just by something they’ve seen on TV, heard by word of mouth, or read somewhere, but that doesn’t make you an expert. That doesn’t make you a physician. Not until you have a degree, some sort of certification, licensing; not until you have the credentials can you make that educated decision about someone’s health. On another note, with that knowledge, there is a way to say or express that someone is overweight without putting people down and engaging in fat shaming. No one had the right to criticize someone over their weight. Nor do they have the right to ridicule, bully, make someone hate themselves. Some many things are affected when people choose to judge someone based on their weight. It affects your whole psyche, your life. And the earlier you’re told you’re overweight, you’re inadequate, you’re not worthy, the longer it will take for you to believe that you are special, that size doesn’t matter, that you’re beautiful, that you can love yourself, that you can be confident and pursue the life you feel you deserve. People really need to think about how they speak and act. Shouldn’t we be working toward building a society where we raise people up, and not tear them down?

  35. Amber says

    When I was a teenager I struggled with an eating disorder and what I might even call exercise addiction. I was convinced that if I could just lose enough weight and have the right musculature to counteract my “deficits” that I would be pretty and could stop being ashamed of who I was. But the things about myself that I was ashamed of, the things I was trying to change, are simply part of my bone structure. No amount of weight loss is going to change my basic shape; I have broad hips and thighs (like the woman second from the right in the photo above) and am slightly knock-kneed. These days, as a 34 year old, I understand that I carry my weight pretty well; at 5’6″ and 162 pounds I am a size 10/12 and I’m comfortable with that because I look awesome in a dress and my super hot boyfriend thinks I’m great! I’m so glad that I stopped hating myself for not looking like the stick thin women in magazines with the smaller hips and the long, straight legs. Those women may ALSO be beautiful, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not. Fit Mom may think that she’s inspiring people and promoting healthy bodies, but she’s really promoting negative self images for every person that doesn’t have the bone structure and the genes to pull off a body like hers (she’s also making the faulty assumption that everyone wants to look like that: what’s my excuse? Well, it’s that, for me, looking like her would not maximize my confidence or make me feel my most beautiful). Teaching women to love themselves no matter what is the most important lesson. We should be striving to better ourselves from a place of love and acceptance. Motivating change through self-hate and shame is never “healthy”, and it rarely works in the long run.

  36. Moe says


    You hit it right on the head. I will not take advice about health from someone who had an eating disorder

  37. says

    Reading these comments and the article is solo frustrating. In the article it states ”And the biggest question of all is…if you’re overweight or obese, are you supposed to NOT love yourself?”. You know what? Letting yourself get morbidly obese is NOT loving yourself, its digging yourself an early grave. And sure, always love yourself….but feel proud for your accomplishments….feeling proud of a 300 pound body or 400 pound body is just ludicrous. I am a size 16 220 pound woman..I am proud of my writing and accomplishments in different areas of my life, and I’m proud of my motherhood, but why should I be proud of stuffing myself of Burger King and soda and candy and chocolate? I love myself, but I don’t show myself love by smoking and eating unhealthy food and prancing around and taking pictures of my overweight body in lacy underwear and posting it and trying so hard for others to find my fat attractive. That is not loving yourself. I find it demeaning and promoting, if not obesity, then it promotes the objectification of yourself, not as a skinny object, but as an overweight object…skinny or fat its still objectification and trying to find value, not in what you do, but what you look like. And I stand….letting yourself stay morbidly obese, is not in any way shape or for,, loving your body.https://theconversation.com/being-healthy-and-obese-is-a-myth-researchers-say-21092

  38. Bianca Bradley says

    Because not finding yourself desirable at that weight, kills your self esteem. It isn’t objectifying yourself by taking pictures in lacy underwear and putting them up, it’s a brave act. It’s an act that says, hey, I’m a big girl, but other big girls, you can be sexy and desirable too. You don’t have to have abs of steel to be desirable.

  39. Karen says

    the thing that people are not realizing here is, no matter what fit mom says, she was BULIMIC> She still has body issues that she is pushing off on everyone else. she has traded one bad habit in for another. She is telling larger women that because SHE was bulimic and puked herself skinny that that is the way to be

  40. Krista Walton says

    “It’s her genetics” and “God made us all different for a reason” are just more excuses made by overweight women who feel insecure and feel bad about themselves when faced with the truth. The fact is that if your body is storing upwards of 35% body fat, you are not living a healthy lifestyle.The human body will not naturally store that much fat, so something is being done wrong whether it be overeating or a lack of activity.
    Overweight women who claim to be “eating healthy” or “not overeating” are nearly always misinformed or ignorant to what healthy, proportional eating really is. Our society is in an obesity crisis because of our skewed views of what “healthy eating” is and what a healthy body looks like. Regardless of whether you think it’s genetics or admit to being lazy, being obese is NOT healthy, and is not something that should be defended as “acceptable”. Obesity causes an increased risk of heart disease, diabetes, premature death, cancer, infertility, and a host of other issues. No one should be comfortable with doing that to themselves.

  41. Dorothy says

    Okay. Let’s say you can tell exactly who is overweight healthy and who is overweight unhealthy. Do you have such a strong opinion of drinkers with liver disease? How about the skinny man who had a heart attack because of all that grease he likes to eat. Oh, wait. I forgot. He’s skinny, so obviously he’s healthy. How about the person with diabetes who isn’t large. Are you also on their case every time they have honey instead of Equal? What gives you the right to pick on one group of people as if you know what is best? How is it any of your business? It’s not. So deal with yourself and let others live their own lives.

  42. Miro says

    I read most of the comments and I founded out that they are all more useful than the original discussion . In conclusion eat healthy and work out even for 10 minutes and do not go on deprivation system and forget about loosing weight .Only take care of yourself because every person deserves that and forget about those hyper skinny models as their work necessitates that. Accept yourself and promote” yourself Esteem and self Approval” .
    Remember we MUST trim our Morales and Behaviors before our body .
    Enjoy your life BC life is too short to waste and death do not need a physical reason to hit the person eve if the reason is so apparent & clear .In our culture we used to say various reason and the death occurs”


  43. Jihan says

    One thing everyone is forgetting that trying to be a model is one thing but saying stop making excuses for yourselves about being fit and healthy is a positive! You don’t like something work on improvement and the right ways to achieve your goals. Also seriously what exactly is considered plus size? I hate the terms used …I wear size 4 from the ribs down but a size 8 or 10 from my ribs up. I have curves but at 5 foot 7 and 135 pounds I was told I was fat then or too skinny! When in truth I was fit and toned and had some muscle definition because I played sports since I was 14 up until my last college season. But my weight changes and where it goes changes a lot too! I went from 135 to about 160 and I was shocked to hear my doctor say I gained 20 plus pounds. I still play competitive sports so it didn’t make sense but then it did. I am a bit of a health nut but I like to eat food. I eat healthy but I eat a lot. Being an athlete can train your body to keep taking in calories but as we age unless you have a strict diet, you can not keep eating like you did at 21. My mom had 5 of us but she was never active so she never got her body back went from a 5 petite to a size 16. So curves, curvey or plus sized is such a loose way to make up excuses for taking care of ourselves. I won’t ever look thin as a model even if I have that appearance but being busty 34 H and loosing 4 cup sizes and slimming down my hips and thighs has made me feel better physically and mentally. She has no excuse to not better herself but she reflects her weight issues on me and it is annoying. I get up and I take charge of my health. So what if your a plus size / curvy type be healthy that is all to it. And if you want to tone up then hit the gym or dance whatever you like and just do it period.

  44. Carolyn Fernandez says

    Aloha, Being from Hawaii , but I am not of the Hawaiian ancestry. In ancient Hawaiian History the women who were under weight were usually the ones who were considered to be of a lower status. The full figure women who known to be of a higher status and were looked upon being Healthy and Beautiful. They were actually considered to be of Royalty and that being said they were better moms and leaders as well. The Hawaiian men always considered them to be the ones to carrying on their lineage .. Today now in Hawaii there is still many woman who carry on this prestige. They even have a Beauty Pageant here called the Miss Aloha Pageant “The Hostess with the Most” That requires for each contest entering to be of no less than 200lobs., they also must have a talent ,and speech as well as costume and evening gown completion. A lot of women enter this pageant just to represent the culture as well as the prestige that comes with its title..

    I too am plus sized and always have been , I am a yoga/pilates instructor as well as owning my own cosmetic and jewelly co.. all catering to the plus sized woman. Yes right here in Hawai’i. We are and so am I proud to be


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