5 Common Misconceptions about Confidence

5 Common Misconceptions about Confidence

Are you ready to boost your confidence in 2020?

Don’t know how to get started? Let’s discuss 5 misconceptions about confidence that you can put behind you on your personal confidence journey!  

#1 Confidence is a Journey Not a Destination   

(Misconception = Confidence is a Destination) 


Building your confidence is more of a journey than a destination. Why? It requires that you actually do something to feel more confident on a frequent basis. If you feel confident today and do nothing to boost your confidence for the rest of the week, it is very likely that your confidence levels will change. Share in the comments what you did to boost your confidence today? 

#2 Confidence is Always a Choice   

(Misconception = Confidence isn’t a Choice) 


According to Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, “Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.” If you want to a more confident person, you have to choose to be more confident. Every day you wake up, you have the choice to start the day focused on why you are blessed, powerful, and capable of accomplishing your goals. If you choose to focus on what you don’t have and prioritize any obstacles standing in your way, that is your choice each and every time. This negative choice will never boost your confidence. Sadly, this behavior will only make you feel less confident and capable in life. Why do this to yourself?    

#3 People Closest to You Can Hurt You the Most    

(Misconception = People Closet to You Don’t Hurt You or Your Confidence) 


Last summer, I decided to move across the country from New York to Arizona to pursue new goals, opportunities, and experience new surroundings. This move was also a wonderful way of creating a physical barrier between negative friends and family members who have no filters or self-control over their own negativity. Sadly, this is a reality for too many people I know. The people closest to you can hurt you the most if you choose to value their opinions or thoughts above your own. Having boundaries is essential for personal sanity, growth, and development. If you have people in your life who LOVE to point out your “flaws” or “negatives”, it is up to you to limit or eliminate their presence in your life! People who don’t uplift or empower you don’t deserve to be in your life.  

#4 You Can Boost Your Confidence  

(Misconception = You Can’t make Yourself more Confident) 


You are in control of how you spend your time and who you spend it with. This means, you have a direct hand in whether you boost your confidence or bring it down. Here some questions to ask yourself to boost your confidence on a daily basis: 

  • What empowering affirmations do you say to yourself? 
  • What can you wear that will make you feel powerful? 
  • What can you read that will motivate yourself? 
  • What can you watch that will boost your confidence? 
  • What situations that lower your confidence that you will avoid/eliminate? 

#5 A Bad Moment Doesn’t have to become Something Bigger  

(Misconception = A Bad Moment equates to a Bad Day) 


Life is filled with the unexpected. When you have triggers that lower your confidence, this constitutes a bad moment. Does this bad moment need to become a bad day, bad week, or bad month? No. It is up to you to hold on to perspective and understand that a bad moment can remain as such. When this happens, you need to understand why the trigger messed with your confidence and put a plan in place to move forward with your confidence intact! Otherwise, your confidence journey will always remain much harder than it needs to be.  

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