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12 Things I Would Have Told Myself at 12

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During the month of love, I love to do the following three things:

1) Spend time with my boo
2) Implement time for self-care
3) Spend time discovering new things about myself

When I was in the middle of a deep thought, I had a revelation about how different I am now than my twelve-year-old self. I am sure you feel the same. But, if we could travel back in time and spend time with your younger self, would you tell yourself? Let’s talk about it!

Opening Photo Provided by Of Mercer

#1 Stop Caring

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People spend too much time caring about things that are not under their control. If I could travel back in time, I would take Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck with me to read and stop giving a f*ck about things that I have no control over.

#2 You Are Not Alone

At 12 years old, I remember feeling very alone and frustrated. I didn’t have a lot of friends, I was obsessed with getting the top grades and I needed to realize that most of the other kids in my school were probably struggling with the same or similar issues. As much as people are unique, we are also very similar to each other.

#3 Figure Out What You Like

Since I was around 6 or 7 years old, I “knew” that I wanted to be a veterinarian. Why? Because I loved the idea of playing with dogs and cats. Playing with animals isn’t the same thing as being a veterinarian. At 12 years old, I needed to make some calls to vet offices in Manhattan to see for myself what a veterinarian does. Figuring out who you are and who you want to be is a journey that you should start as soon as possible.

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#4 Don’t Limit Yourself

Mary Kay Ash said it best when she said, “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” At 12 years old, I needed to focus on what I wanted, not the “limitations”.

#5 Show People How You Want to be Treated

If you want to be treated with respect and dignity, are you making that clear to others in your life? At 12, I needed to stand up to my bullies and the unnecessarily rude classmates. Instead of feeling sad and upset, I needed to make it clear that I deserved to be treated with respect. No exceptions!

#6 Practice Your Craft

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When I wasn’t studying for school, I was writing poetry, crafting stories, drawing, and playing the flute. Did I take my creative time as serious as my studies? No. This was a mistake. Your passions are important. If you want to learn how to draw better, then you owe it to yourself to learn how to do it. You might surprise yourself and end up in a career where you utilize your artistic talents over what you learned in US History. Don’t undervalue your creative abilities.

#7 You Are Responsible for Your Happiness

Growing up, I was disillusioned about happiness. I believed it was friends or family members that were supposed to make you happy. This is simply not true. Happiness is always an inside job. It isn’t an easy job but if you work on figuring out who you are and what makes you happy, it will make life that much easier to enjoy.

#8 Everything will Work Out

In addition to worrying about things you don’t you control, people like to do what? They worry whether things will work out. If you think about it, don’t most things work out? Situations might not always work out how you expect them to, but typically you get type of resolution each and every time. This is something I desperately needed to know. Life is too short to be worrying, it is better to get out there and live your life.

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#9 Keep Learning

Later in life, I developed the motto: Learn something new and meet someone new every single day. This was something I should have implemented this so much sooner. Don’t agree?

#10 Say No

Saying No is BEYOND important. Here are things you should absolutely say no to:

  • Negative people
  • Toxic situations
  • Negative self-talk
  • Things you don’t want to do
  • People who make you feel bad

What are things you need to say no to?

#11 Trust Your Gut

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Someone once said, “Deep down you already know the truth.” How would your childhood be improved if you trusted your gut much more?

#12 Have Fun

No matter how stressful or busy life is, it is important to make time to have fun. Watch a fun movie, spend an afternoon laughing. Take time to watch cat videos on YouTube. Do something fun and document the experience on social media. The point is to just have fun. Even if it is a couple of minutes a day, just do it. You will thank me over and over again!

Natasha Nurse is a DEI professional, coach, author, podcaster, and content creator. Her vision is not just to educate but to ignite a ripple effect of change that transcends professional boundaries and instills a sense of belonging and acceptance in every interaction. Through her innovative strategies and heartening engagements, Natasha Nurse is not just a name, but a movement towards a more inclusive and understanding professional world. In addition to founding Dressing Room 8 and her solo podcast Glamour, Giggles, and Goals. Additionally, she is also the co-founder of WokeNFree, a groundbreaking podcast that is redefining the conversation on social and cultural issues. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Animal Science from The Pennsylvania State University and a Juris Doctorate from New York Law School. Outside of her busy schedule, she loves enjoying the Arizona weather with her husband, young son, and pets.

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May 16 Edition – Our Favorite Plus Size Style Moments Of The Week

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Plus Size Fashion Inspiration from YOU! Our fabulous readers share plus size fashion inspo on Instagram!

…Want to share your style inspo? Click here to follow us on Instagram and hashtag your pictures with #CelebrateMySize. You may be featured on our Instagram page or website.

@tonsablush

@loralyee

@schmoalert

@sabrinastyled

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@wagyu_beff

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Remembering Mia Amber Davis: A Pioneer in Plus-Size Fashion

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Remembering Mia Amber Davis: A Pioneer in Plus-Size Fashion…

Thirteen years have passed since the world bid farewell to Mia Amber Davis, a beloved figure whose vibrant spirit and unwavering advocacy for plus-sized individuals left an indelible mark on the fashion industry. Mia’s sudden departure at the age of 36 sent shockwaves through her family, friends, and the fashion community, leaving behind a legacy that continues to inspire and uplift.

Mia’s journey was one of resilience and determination. Born with a passion for modeling and acting, she fearlessly pursued her dreams despite the challenges that often accompany unconventional beauty standards. Her magnetic presence graced the screens and pages of entertainment, most notably in the cult classic film “Road Trip,” where she fearlessly challenged stereotypes in a memorable love scene alongside D.J. Qualls.

Yet, Mia’s impact extended far beyond the silver screen. As a trailblazing plus-size model based in New York, she shattered boundaries and paved the way for future generations of curvy models. Her work transcended mere representation; it was a testament to self-love, confidence, and empowerment. Mia’s advocacy for body positivity resonated deeply with audiences worldwide, earning her the adoration and respect of countless individuals.

In the wake of her passing, the fashion industry mourned the loss of a true icon. Madeline Jones, editor of PLUS Model Magazine, encapsulated the collective grief, expressing how Mia’s absence left a void that could never be filled. Mia’s commitment to celebrating diversity and inclusivity was not just a profession but a way of life—one that touched hearts and inspired change.

Though Mia’s time with us was cut short, her legacy endures through the countless lives she touched and the barriers she broke. Her journey, marked by triumphs and challenges, serves as a beacon of hope for those striving to embrace their unique beauty and pursue their dreams against all odds.

As we reflect on Mia Amber Davis’s remarkable life, let us honor her memory by continuing her legacy of acceptance, kindness, and unwavering self-belief. Though she may no longer walk among us, her spirit lives on in the hearts of all who were fortunate enough to know her, reminding us to love ourselves fiercely and unapologetically, just as she did.

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May 9 Edition – Our Favorite Plus Size Style Moments Of The Week

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Plus Size Fashion Inspiration from YOU! Our fabulous readers share plus size fashion inspo on Instagram!

…Want to share your style inspo? Click here to follow us on Instagram and hashtag your pictures with #CelebrateMySize. You may be featured on our Instagram page or website.

@panamakish

@felicityhayward

@nizzymacc

@danielle_nekole

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Unveiling the Power of Self-Care Rituals: Insights into Mental Wellness

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Unveiling the Power of Self-Care Rituals: Insights into Mental Wellness…

For some of us stress seems to be an inevitable companion, and prioritizing mental health has become a crucial aspect of our lives. As the spotlight on mental wellness intensifies, individuals are increasingly turning towards self-care rituals to nurture their minds and souls. In this exploration, we delve into the realm of self-care practices, unveiling their significance in promoting mental well-being.

Self-care goes beyond pampering oneself with occasional treats; it embodies a holistic approach to nurturing our mental, emotional, and physical health. It encompasses activities that recharge our batteries, soothe our souls, and rejuvenate our spirits amidst life’s demands.

Discovering the Tapestry of Self-Care Rituals

  1. Mindfulness Meditation: Engaging in mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing exercises can help anchor our minds to the present moment, fostering a sense of calm and clarity amidst chaos.
  2. Nourishing Nutrition: Fueling our bodies with wholesome, nutritious foods not only sustains physical health but also nurtures our mental well-being. Incorporating fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into our diets can bolster our mood and energy levels.
  3. Creative Expression: Whether through art, music, writing, or any other form of creative expression, channeling our inner creativity can serve as a therapeutic outlet for processing emotions and fostering self-discovery.
  4. Physical Activity: Regular exercise not only benefits our physical health but also has profound effects on our mental well-being. Whether it’s a brisk walk in nature, a yoga session, or a dance class, moving our bodies can release endorphins, alleviate stress, and enhance our overall mood.
  5. Digital Detox: In an era dominated by screens and constant connectivity, unplugging from digital devices and immersing ourselves in offline activities can provide much-needed respite for our minds, allowing space for introspection and relaxation.
  6. Quality Sleep: Prioritizing adequate sleep is paramount for mental health and overall well-being. Establishing a bedtime routine, creating a restful sleep environment, and practicing relaxation techniques can promote restorative sleep and enhance cognitive function.

Embracing self-care rituals isn’t just about indulgence; it’s about cultivating resilience, nurturing self-compassion, and fostering a deeper connection with ourselves. By prioritizing our mental well-being and incorporating self-care practices into our daily lives, we empower ourselves to navigate life’s challenges with grace and authenticity.

As the discourse around mental health continues to evolve, integrating self-care into our collective consciousness is imperative. By embracing self-care rituals as a cornerstone of our lives, we not only prioritize our mental wellness but also contribute to the creation of a culture that values compassion, authenticity, and holistic well-being. So, let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery, one self-care ritual at a time, and pave the way for a brighter, more resilient future.

In the tapestry of self-care, let us weave a masterpiece of mental wellness—one nurturing gesture, one mindful breath, and one compassionate act at a time.

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What are your favorite self-care rituals? How do you prioritize mental wellness in your daily life? Join the conversation on social media and share your insights!

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SwimStar All Stars Partnership With Renowned Plus-size Model and Swimsuits For All Ambassador, Denise Bidot

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Inclusive Swimwear Brand Collaborates with Prominent Plus-Size Model Denise Bidot to Empower Aspiring Models

Swimsuits For All, a pioneer in inclusive swimwear, proudly introduces its inaugural SwimStar All Stars campaign in partnership with renowned plus-size model and Swimsuits For All ambassador, Denise Bidot. This collaboration marks a significant milestone, nearly a decade following Denise’s groundbreaking “Beach Body, Not Sorry” campaign with Swimsuits For All in 2015, which showcased unretouched imagery aimed at promoting unapologetic confidence.

Denise Bidot and Swimsuits For All have jointly unveiled the SwimStar All Stars nationwide search, dedicated to discovering emerging talent in the realm of swimsuit modeling. Encouraging aspiring models to share their personal narratives, the initiative aims to inspire women of all backgrounds, shapes, and sizes. Following a rigorous selection process, Brittany Wilborn, Camryn Henry, and Sharon Clawson emerged as the chosen winners. In January 2024, these models embarked on a transformative journey to Harbour Island, where they had the unparalleled opportunity to shoot alongside Denise under the expert direction of internationally acclaimed photographer and director, Ben Watts.

Reflecting on the initiative, Denise Bidot remarked, “This was a truly exceptional opportunity to celebrate the diversity of plus-size models and cultivate an atmosphere of support, empowerment, and knowledge sharing. The camaraderie on set was palpable, and I am deeply honored to impart the wisdom and insights I’ve garnered throughout my career. Opportunities like these are scarce for plus-size models in the industry, and it has been a privilege to collaborate with the exceptional team at Swimsuits for All to bring this campaign to fruition.”

The models showcased the latest swimwear offerings from the Swimsuits for All 2024 collection, featuring innovative designs tailored to meet the diverse needs of women, including:

Feel-good Fits: Addressing common concerns such as tummy bulges and fit issues, Swimsuits for All offers a range of fits designed to instill confidence and comfort in every body. Incorporating features like Power Mesh for a smooth, flattering silhouette, and adjustable straps for customizable support, the collection caters to various body types.

Bold Prints & Colors for Summer: The summer swimwear collection boasts vibrant colors and captivating prints, injecting excitement and personality into beach and poolside attire. From vivid neon hues to tropical motifs, the collection encourages self-expression and style experimentation.

Liquid Shine: Introducing Liquid Shine, a striking swim fabrication characterized by a glossy, liquid-like finish, adding an edgy allure to beachwear. Available in multiple silhouettes, including bikinis, Liquid Shine ensures you stand out with confidence.

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Bikinis that Suit You Best: The Mix & Match Bikini collection offers a personalized approach to swimwear, allowing individuals to mix and match colors and silhouettes for a bespoke look tailored to their preferences.

Beyond showcasing inclusive swimwear designs, the SwimStar All Stars campaign embodies a celebration of women uplifting one another in an industry often marked by competitiveness. Throughout the week-long shoot, models engaged in one-on-one sessions with Denise, fostering meaningful dialogue about the evolving representation of plus-size bodies in swim and fashion.

Jordan Hauser, Senior Director of E-Commerce & Marketing, expressed, “This campaign transcends conventional notions of body positivity and representation in the swim and fashion industries. It is a testament to the power of storytelling and authenticity in reflecting the diverse experiences of our customer base. We are committed to fostering a movement where women find strength in unity, and we are thrilled to embark on this journey alongside Denise Bidot, one of the industry’s foremost advocates for inclusivity.”

The summer 2024 swimwear collection is now available. For further details about Swimsuits For All and the SwimStar All Stars campaign, please visit www.swimsuitsforall.com.

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Get to Know Our Cover Model Sharon Dumfries…

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Get to Know Our Cover Model Sharon Dumfries…

Imagine being scouted while you are performing a dance routine in baggy clothes and not even thinking about becoming a model. This was in part our cover model’s journey to where she is today. This month we are celebrating our journeys and embracing the steps that have brought us to where we are today.

Get to know our cover model Sharon Dumfries…

PLUS Model Magazine - May 2024

Photographer, Milton Goedhoop

Please tell us a little about yourself and how you got started in the modeling industry.

I’m Sharon Dumfries, born and raised on the Island of Aruba but my parents have a different background and are Dutch Indonesian and Surinam Haitian. As a kid and teenager, I got bullied for my looks and for being different, and I had a hard time standing up for myself. It was also hard to find fashion in my size. Taking dancing classes helped me get out of my comfort zone and get better self-esteem during the years. I moved to the Netherlands at 18 years of age to study and today I’m a model and teacher for over 13 years.

I got scouted unexpectedly after dancing a ”Hip-hop and House” routine in my baggiest outfit during a fashion show with primarily straight-size models. I started as a catwalk model on weekends after doing an intensive catwalk and fashion show training, next to finishing my Biology and Teachers degree. A few years later I got scouted by a big brand during a fashion show and this was the stepping stone to getting signed with a bigger agency in Amsterdam.

Get to Know Our Cover Model Sharon Dumfries…

We have spoken to models from all over the world about the plus size industry in their respective countries, and realize it’s different outside of the United States. Can you share the plus-size industry as you see it in The Netherlands?

A lot of brands tend to book models in the same country, so if you really want to make a career it’s sometimes best to be ”on stay”  for a while in the UK or Germany. We don’t have a lot of ”go-sees”. The sizes of most models that get booked are usually smaller than in the US. The sizes size 42- 44- 46- (Sometimes 48) EU are very popular because of the Sample Sizes.

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For those of us getting to know you, can you share your work with us as an educator and coach?

I currently teach Biology in High School for the past 12,5 years and have managed to work as a model part-time. I’m also a coach at school and help students with their emotions such as fear of failure. Through coaching, I’m given the opportunity to speak to teenagers who aren’t able to come to school due to anxiety about participating in school in the regular classes, heavy bullying, or being kicked out of school for other reasons. This is still fully new and just started at our school a few weeks ago.

What role do you believe social media plays in today’s society as we raise children and also tend to our mental health?

The stress level is rising earlier on due to pressure to not only be cool and accepted in real life but also online. The level of bullying online is where there is no supervision and it is getting out of control. Teenagers already get burned out at a very young age. There is too much non-visible pressure that everyone needs to be above average. Some try to over-achieve and get burned out and others give up and don’t get to make small steps forward and stay stuck, which in turn also causes a lot of stress.

Get to Know Our Cover Model Sharon Dumfries…

What tips do you have about navigating social media for both the younger generation and those of us who remember the days before the internet?

I am not the best in Social Media, a little bit by choice. I don’t want it to be a must. But a lot of people make a living out of it. It takes a lot of time and effort, so for it to really make it work it’s a full-time job or you need a team. For the ones who remember the days before the internet: just try, and have a bit of fun along the way trying to figure it out, it all changes so quickly nowadays. But most of all be authentic. For the younger generation, I would say the same. It is not a must as a model to have a huge following. It’s about being visible that counts, that people and brands can find you. It’s best to start small and make baby steps. It took me more than 10 years to get where I am now. I believe working together and genuinely spreading love makes the difference.

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As a model, teacher, and coach what are some of your goals for the future and what changes would you like to see in the plus-size modeling industry?

In the future, I would like to combine my knowledge as a teacher, model, and coach. Preferably by helping others to realize what true beauty is. As cheesy as it sounds, from the inside out. In the future, I would like see more diversity and inclusiveness, not as a trend. I would like to see bigger sizes being booked just as often as small sizes. And also better education about what being healthy means. I would like to see more respect from people behind their laptops, to always show love, if there is hate, keep it to yourself ;). In the best scenario, brands need to book models for their charisma and make the clothes fit them. I would like less plastic surgery, and more natural imperfections to be celebrated. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and is different in every culture, never let that define your beauty. You are good enough just as you are <3

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