It’s 2023, and I’m ready to stop doing or saying anything that gets in the way of what I really want. Here are 12 things I’m saying sorry to myself for:
#1 I’m sorry for believing that there was only one right way to live life—for thinking that there was only one right way to be a friend or partner or parent or employee—and not making space for myself and others to find our own ways of being ourselves in those roles and relationships.
#2 I’m sorry for ever letting other people’s opinions about what was “right” in my life affect my decisions, instead of trusting myself and following my heart.
#3 I’m so sorry for being afraid of failure because it meant that I was also afraid of success.
#4 Not asking for help when I need it most—because who am I to ask someone else for help? Why would they do anything for me?
#5 Believing that there are things I’m not good at, instead of believing that there are things I haven’t learned yet
#6 Saying “yes” when I really wanted to say “no.”
#7 Thinking that being “perfect” was what mattered most (because we’re all imperfect).
#8 Putting other people’s needs before my own because they seemed more important at the time (but they’re not!).
#9 Failing to acknowledge my own pain and suffering because it didn’t seem like enough compared to others’ pain and suffering (but everyone experiences pain in their own way).
#10 Thinking that being busy meant being productive—and that being productive meant being successful. But being busy does not equal productivity; being productive does not equal success! It’s so simple once we get there!
#11 Saying ‘sorry’ when I didn’t mean it—it just came out of my mouth before I could stop it.
#12 Believing that if something didn’t bring immediate results, it wasn’t worth doing at all.
What would you like to apologize to yourself about this year?